Oh…the pressure.

It’s less than one month away from Christmas. I have yet to buy a single present. I don’t know how I’m going to manage to afford them, let alone have the time to actually shop for them.

I was giving Benjamin his bath tonight and started humming a Christmas carol. I can never remember the words to songs, I have always just been a hummer. So, I’m humming along, he’s smiling - beaming actually - he loves music. And then I stop. It hits me like a ton of bricks. It’s all on me.

One side effect of being a dating single mama…my baby is trying to make out with me.

Okay this is weird. My son, is 20 months old. I guess he’s a toddler now, but I still call him a baby. Bear with me, I’m hanging on to his babyhood for as long as I can get away with it. He just learned how to kiss. The first time he pecked my on my lips. That was before I met Kris. Since then he has seen all kind of hugging, hand holding and all around sweet affections which include “adult kisses.”

Turkeys, babies and men…oh my!

I’m packing…well, taking a break at the moment to write. I’m nervous as hell. Not because I have to spend 7 hours in the car with a toddler, but because I have to spend 7 hours in the car with a toddler…and a man. He’s my new man and quite a man at that.

Something amazing happened.

Benjamin woke up last night…at 3:30 a.m. and wouldn’t go back down. Wide awake with a little cough, I decide to take him downstairs to mommy’s bed. Kris was staying over. It’s been five weeks now and this would be his first experience with a fussy baby in the dead of night. Benjamin was lying on my belly, breathing deeply and coughing. “What’s up deep breather?” Kris says.

Single motherhood - turns out, not so easy, but not so tough either.

Being a single mom is tough. But like anything else in life - you get used to it. you adapt, you become stronger and you survive. You also have the power of love on your side - the love you feel for your child is stronger than anything you’ve ever felt - itcompels you and drives you day in and day out.

How to date a single mom, Part 1

Hi guys. So you’ve fallen for a single mom? I don’t blame you. You’ve found a woman who has been put to one of life’s hardest tests – on her own – and survived. Single mothers are amazing. But, she’s created a life for her and her little ones and letting anyone in could be risky. If you want in, you’ve got to be patient, understanding and respectful.

Best Single Mama Movies

I don’t know about you, but movies just aren’t the same anymore. A lot of things aren’t. If I am going to take a few hours to sit down and watch one it better be good, or I flip it off within the first 20 minutes.

Last night I watched Paris, Je Taime (Paris, I Love You). It was unbelievable. There are 18, maybe more, short 5 minute love stories from Paris. Love stories you wouldn’t expect. Love between divorced couples, old couples, young couples, friends and a few on the love between a mother and her child.

E-Harmony’s Matches are Dead Wrong

I’ve been an online dating “lurker” since my divorce. I actually joined eHarmony on last year’s very depressing Valentine’s Day. I was still living at my mom’s house which is out in the woods deep in the hills of Appalachia. There were no men in sight. Except for the mountain man across the street but that’s a story for another day.

Cigarrettes, men and some major trust issues.

My new boyfriend and I decided to quit smoking - together. It’s the first time I’ve done something together, as a couple in years. Well, if you count my divorce, it’s been nearly a year. Knowing Saturday night was going to be a baby-free all-nighter we pick Sunday to go cold turkey. I’m scared. Scared to quit smoking and scared to enter into a verbal contract with someone - a commitment.

The Single Mom Dating Conundrum.

It’s been four weeks now. My new relationship status is beginning to sink in. I have a boyfriend, and I’m actually enjoying it immensely. Usually this is the point where fear takes over and I start pushing them away. I slowly eject them from my life, or cut it clean depending on my mood. But this time, I’m not feeling that way. I’m not stressed at all. I’m completely comfortable with him and totally into him. So far, the feeling is mutual.